Some opportunities you only allow ONCE           When you're doing the work, what's meant for you will not pass you. If you miss that first opportunity or big break, a boomerang second chance is likely not far behind...     However, for those opportunities that YOU create for others in YOUR life,  totally different story:  It's  your  choice how you let people treat you. It's  your  decision what you do and do not allow.      For some, that may mean second (or third or hundredth) chances. For others, it may mean one and done. Life is rarely 100% ideal, so naturally some circumstances may also require a trade-off.     But in order to know what is a good trade-off, you must know YOUR priorities. You must know YOUR bottom lines. You must know what is and is not okay BY YOU.      So how do you do this? There's lots of ways, but from my own experience, the most effective way has been having  CLARITY : A vision that is clear AF and rock solid core values.       Once you know where you're going, your priorities naturally become more clear. Situations with conflicting priorities become less paralyzingly because now you know what is the better trade off and thus, the right decision for you. Having a solid foundation of core values    guides    you in this process as you choose actions more in alignment with where you are going and the person who you need to become in order to get there.      Now, summoning the courage to actually  act  on those decisions is another story 😂.     So do what you can to get clear on YOUR vision & values. Not your boss's vision, not your company's vision, not your family & friends' vision.  YOURS.       Ask for help, look up resources, google your questions, hire a coach! Create space in your calendar to re-evaluate and check in with yourself on a regular basis. Catch yourself when you've moved out of alignment, and take steps to get yourself back on the path towards the Best Possible You (and practice self-love and compassion in the process!).      It's not somebody else's life, it's YOUR life. It's up to you to direct it. 💪🏾. #getinthedriversseat     #vision #goals #clarity  #emotionalintelligence #EQ #courage

Some opportunities you only allow ONCE

 

When you're doing the work, what's meant for you will not pass you. If you miss that first opportunity or big break, a boomerang second chance is likely not far behind...

 

However, for those opportunities that YOU create for others in YOUR life, totally different story: It's your choice how you let people treat you. It's your decision what you do and do not allow. 

      If you don't stand for SOMETHING, you'll fall for ANYTHING           During my coach training program, one of the very first coaching concepts I learned about was  STAND .  When it was first introduced to me, it sounded like a foreign word - wtf is “stand”? Did I really just drop mad cash money to talk about my posture?!     I was expecting something more like “active listening” or “crucial conversations” or ANY other professional-sounding buzzword for communication. But, “Stand”...? …Really??     In the non-anatomical sense,  Merriam Webster  defines stand as  “to remain firm in the face of”  or  “to maintain one's position.”      Hmm… so it’s not just physical.     When we start thinking of “taking a stand” in conceptual terms, I’m sure many of us can relate…     How many of us have stood up for a friend? Or stood up against a bully? How many of us have intervened when we saw a little kid getting beat up on the playground?     I’m 99% positive that all of us can recognize and relate to these experiences of taking a stand for someone else (congratulations on being a feeling human and not a psychopath).     So how is a Coach’s Stand any different?     Well, for one - as your Coach, I have absolutely ZERO ulterior motive, bias, or subconscious dream for you to live out. Bless our family and friends, but sometimes they can’t hold back their expectations/desires for us and it may seep through in their interactions (“advice”) with us.     Plus, let’s not even get into the psychological hot pot about parent-child dynamics, family of origin wounds, and emotional triggering. I think it’s safe to say that as your Coach, I’ll probably be one of the most objective people in your tribe.     Now, more importantly, when I take a Coach’s Stand for you, that means  I am taking a stand for your Best Self. ALWAYS.      I stand for your wisest, most enlightened attitudes.     I stand for your most evolved and mature behaviors.     I stand for your most skillful and adept self to navigate a challenging situation.     I stand for  your  best possible outcome.     I stand for  your best possible future .      In essence, I stand for the   Best Possible You . So what does this look like?     When you’re feeling stuck in life and know something needs to change, but don’t know what or how to do it.    I stand up for you, and we get real about how to transform your current blah life into bliss life.       When you have big dreams and are beginning to take steps towards them, but every other week you FREAK OUT and want to quit because it’s too hard.     I stand up for you, and we address the anxiety that’s blocking you.        When you know what you should be doing to make progress towards your goals, but instead you’re mindlessly scrolling through facebook, bingeing on netflix, or pounding ben & jerry’s like no tomorrow and exhibiting all sorts of regressive and self-destructive behaviors.    I stand up for you and call out your behavior for what it is: Fear. And then we figure out how to get you back in alignment towards your dreams.        Everyone’s blocks and challenges towards their dreams/ goals/ bliss life look different, but the essence of the transformation struggle is universal:  We can be both our biggest advocate and our own worst enemy.      We all know that it takes our Best Self to create true transformation in our lives. However, it’s also our Worst Self that undermines our efforts in order to keep things status quo, and thus prevent our dreams from becoming reality.     With the help of a Coach, now you have an  ally  when your Worst Self is crippling you. Someone who is unequivocally on your Best Self’s side and impermeable to the effects of your Worst Self.       Together, we’ll co-create a safe space where both your Best Self and Worst Self are invited to the table, and  real talk  can happen. We’ll identify the self-limiting beliefs, the fears, and the sneaky tactics your Worst Self uses to keep you firmly stuck in your comfort zone. We’ll create new, self-empowering beliefs and choose practices to get your Best Self back on track.     And most importantly, as your coach,  I witness you and your growth.  I see you. I hear you. ALL of you: Best Self, Worst Self, and Current Self.     I’m going to reflect back to you which of these selves is  actually  showing up: I’ll remind you how far your Current Self has already grown on this journey. I will point out where your Best Self is shining and deserves more credit. I’ll also lovingly, yet firmly, call out your Worst Self’s bullshit that your friends & family all see but are too afraid to tell you.  Real, honest reflections.      I’m also going to hold you accountable towards your dreams and goals: Together, we’ll formulate actions, strategies, and habits that support your success. Life doesn’t transform overnight, but with the right mindset and consistent practice,  you will actualize your bliss life.       Transforming  your life is no easy feat, and not everyone is cut out for it. It’s scary, and can even be downright terrifying(!!). But waking up to your bliss life, feeling aligned with your soul’s purpose and mission in this world, experiencing life to its fullest - THAT’s what living is really all about.     So, if you’ve decided to embark on this path, H YEAH to you!  Something better is possible for you. You   can   do this.  You are brave beyond measure.      And when you forget how awesomely courageous you are and why you decided to go on this crazy journey (because we’re all human with imperfect memories),  I stand firm for  your Best Possible You.       So, ready to get started?! Let’s connect!   

If you don’t stand for SOMETHING, you’ll fall for ANYTHING

 

During my coach training program, one of the very first coaching concepts I learned about was STAND.  When it was first introduced to me, it sounded like a foreign word - wtf is “stand”? Did I really just drop mad cash money to talk about my posture?!

 

I was expecting something more like “active listening” or “crucial conversations” or ANY other professional-sounding buzzword for communication. But, “Stand”...? …Really??

 

In the non-anatomical sense, Merriam Webster defines stand as “to remain firm in the face of” or “to maintain one's position.”

 

Hmm… so it’s not just physical.

      When a woman cleans her closet,  SHIFT HAPPENS      Every. Single. Time.  It honestly  *is*  that black & white 💪🏾..           I'm a self-professed Minimalist and with each phase of growth, I find myself tossing more and more: clothes, products, memorabilia, duplicates of anything, singular of unwanted things. There is something indescribably satisfying about physically removing blah and creating open space for awe.     These days, there is hardly anything left to toss because I genuinely adore every item I own. And unbeknownst to me, this has become my gateway to freedom: In the past week, I unexpectedly found out I had to move and in a matter of DAYS, I found a new place, signed on it, hired movers for my furniture, hand packed and then unpacked every single item I own, and am now comfortably settled into my new place which I LOVE and ironically is even smaller than my last studio 😆.      And best of all? This was hands down, the "easiest" move I've done in the past 6 years: No ocean to cross, no heartbreaking goodbyes, no tears on either side of a plane ride because NO PLANE RIDE!     Sure, there were snafu's like the movers who scheduled me for the wrong day and the unexpected plumbing diversions, but the entire process as a whole felt straightforward and the setbacks didn't quite feel like setbacks... Somehow, it all came together and it came together FAST. Clearly, the ease in this move wasn't just about "stuff."            I share all of this to say: What physical/ mental/ emotional freedom does your Best Self crave? How can you tap into this feeling of expansiveness by creating space in your life  *right now* ?      Freeing ourselves of emotional and mental burdens can be exhausting and overwhelming, to say the least 😳. But that closet? That desk? That one drawer you know you avoid?? Heck Yeah we can create space in that!      Don't underestimate the power of taking  *action*  towards your vision. Step by step, small action to big action, you'll get there. Cleaning out space may seem totally unrelated to your life goals, but that feeling of accomplishment and satisfaction from your efforts? Yup, that feeling is universal to ALL worthwhile goals. Savor this feeling, and continue building momentum with each new action you take towards your dreams.      And, Bonus Points! Combining your intention with tangible movements sends a very powerful signal out to the Universe. Our actions announce, "This badass is in the driver's seat. She just decided LIKE A BOSS and is committed to taking charge of her life 💪🏾.".     In turn, the Universe will rally to support you. This support may take the form of helpful guides, more synchronicities, alignment like whoa, etc. Why?  Because YOU my friend, are actually brave enough to shift your dreams into reality . This is no small feat!(!!) And you bet the Universe is going to support the F out of that!      #trust #surrender #progress  #shifts  #takingaction  #visionsintoreality   #powerofchoice  #freedom #emotionalfreedom   #emotionalintelligence #EQ  #minimalism  #badass #ladyboss

When a woman cleans her closet, SHIFT HAPPENS

 

I'm a self-professed Minimalist and with each phase of growth, I find myself tossing more and more: clothes, products, memorabilia, duplicates of anything, singular of unwanted things. There is something indescribably satisfying about physically removing blah and creating open space for awe...